10 Reasons Why Your Ex May Have Dumped You
Are you still trying to figure out why your partner dumped you? Are you playing things over in your head, trying to understand the reason they broke it off? Well, the fact of the matter is that people break up for many reasons. While everyone's situation is different, here are the top ten reasons that one partner might decide to call it a day. If you are trying to get to the bottom of why they left (or if you suspect that your loved one is about to show you the door), this could provide much needed insight.
1. Your partner was/is being abused physically or mentally. If you are physically assaulting your mate, then it's pretty much an open and shut case - you deserve everything you have coming to you. However, when it comes to mental abuse, the line is a little less defined. In fact, you may be abusing your spouse without even realizing it. Are you constantly putting them down or telling them they are worthless? If so, you are guilty of abuse and will likely lose your relationship because of it.
2. You are (were) in a loveless relationship. There are many reasons why a person would remain in such a situation. Maybe you're afraid of tearing the family apart. Perhaps you have become so complacent that the prospect of the unknown just doesn't seem to be worth it. Maybe your partner is holding you hostage financially. Whatever the reason, it is only a matter of time before one person comes to their senses and ends it.
3. You cheated. This is a tough one because once this occurs and is brought out into the open, there may not be any hope for you at all. There is also an excellent chance that your partner will end it for good – as in, no second chance – ever. If you have cheated and you plan on getting your ex back, it is going to be an uphill struggle to simply rebuild that trust again, let alone get the relationship back.
4. You have a problem with drinking or drugs. This can put an incredible amount of pressure on your relationship and is one of the leading causes of separation and divorce. Living with someone with a substance abuse problem can be intolerable.
5. Your jealousy and insecurities become too much for your partner to take. Sure, things may have been great in the beginning, but now that you have been in the relationship for a while, your controlling mannerisms are rearing their ugly head and your spouse has reached their breaking point. This type of behavior may be difficult to change, as it is a part of who you are.
6. Your partner found someone else. Hey, it happens when you least expect it. In fact, most of the time, it is just as surprising for your partner as well. Who knows what life has in store for us around the next corner? Unfortunately, there may not be much you can do about it once it happens. Love can be a powerful thing.
7. You take your partner for granted. In the beginning, you were very attentive, but lately he/she feels unappreciated and taken advantage of. Missed anniversaries/birthdays, showing up late for important functions, and general apathy when it comes to the relationship are reasons why they may eventually call it quits.
8. You don't stick up for your spouse. At certain times, they expect you to be on their side and stick up for them. They need emotional support and, at times, they expect you to be there for them – no questions asked.
9. You are playing mind games and threaten to leave them if you don't get your own way. This is a dangerous game because it will only work a few times, if at all. You may also use other people in an attempt to make them jealous, but it all amounts to the same thing. This type of behavior is usually associated with someone who lacks self-esteem.
10. You are still in contact with your ex. While it may be unavoidable, especially if there are children involved, your current partner may not be able to handle it emotionally. Obviously, a difficult situation to be in if you share custody of your children.
1. Your partner was/is being abused physically or mentally. If you are physically assaulting your mate, then it's pretty much an open and shut case - you deserve everything you have coming to you. However, when it comes to mental abuse, the line is a little less defined. In fact, you may be abusing your spouse without even realizing it. Are you constantly putting them down or telling them they are worthless? If so, you are guilty of abuse and will likely lose your relationship because of it.
2. You are (were) in a loveless relationship. There are many reasons why a person would remain in such a situation. Maybe you're afraid of tearing the family apart. Perhaps you have become so complacent that the prospect of the unknown just doesn't seem to be worth it. Maybe your partner is holding you hostage financially. Whatever the reason, it is only a matter of time before one person comes to their senses and ends it.
3. You cheated. This is a tough one because once this occurs and is brought out into the open, there may not be any hope for you at all. There is also an excellent chance that your partner will end it for good – as in, no second chance – ever. If you have cheated and you plan on getting your ex back, it is going to be an uphill struggle to simply rebuild that trust again, let alone get the relationship back.
4. You have a problem with drinking or drugs. This can put an incredible amount of pressure on your relationship and is one of the leading causes of separation and divorce. Living with someone with a substance abuse problem can be intolerable.
5. Your jealousy and insecurities become too much for your partner to take. Sure, things may have been great in the beginning, but now that you have been in the relationship for a while, your controlling mannerisms are rearing their ugly head and your spouse has reached their breaking point. This type of behavior may be difficult to change, as it is a part of who you are.
6. Your partner found someone else. Hey, it happens when you least expect it. In fact, most of the time, it is just as surprising for your partner as well. Who knows what life has in store for us around the next corner? Unfortunately, there may not be much you can do about it once it happens. Love can be a powerful thing.
7. You take your partner for granted. In the beginning, you were very attentive, but lately he/she feels unappreciated and taken advantage of. Missed anniversaries/birthdays, showing up late for important functions, and general apathy when it comes to the relationship are reasons why they may eventually call it quits.
8. You don't stick up for your spouse. At certain times, they expect you to be on their side and stick up for them. They need emotional support and, at times, they expect you to be there for them – no questions asked.
9. You are playing mind games and threaten to leave them if you don't get your own way. This is a dangerous game because it will only work a few times, if at all. You may also use other people in an attempt to make them jealous, but it all amounts to the same thing. This type of behavior is usually associated with someone who lacks self-esteem.
10. You are still in contact with your ex. While it may be unavoidable, especially if there are children involved, your current partner may not be able to handle it emotionally. Obviously, a difficult situation to be in if you share custody of your children.